To breathe, to witness, to participate in the miraculous dance of existence is a privilege we often forget to honor. Yet, here we are surrounded by the quiet brilliance of nature, the wisdom of sentient beings, the subtle energies that move through and between us, and the ever-expanding mysteries revealed through quantum understanding.
Life is both science and spirit, ritual and revelation.
It is love made visible through connection. It is meaning taking shape in the everyday moments we so often overlook.
When we allow ourselves to sit fully in the depth of it all the beauty, the wonder, the intelligence woven into every cell and every breath we remember that being alive is not something to rush past. It is something to savor, to celebrate, to bow to.
Living is the ceremony. Love is the doorway. Awareness is the gift.
And today, may you feel the sacredness of simply being here awake, connected, and part of this extraordinary tapestry of life.
Learning not to care about someone’s actions or lack of action toward yourself is never easy. Yet, the pathway to creating healthy boundaries is about self-care. Whenever you think about how or what they are not doing, take a moment and do something nice for yourself. You also want others to do these things for you, yet the journey begins with you. The more you are clear about what you will accept or not, the easier you generate your own life. A new way: one that is filled with love, reciprocity, and respect.
When respect isn’t present consistently, and the experiences leave you confused and empty, your responses will not be at their best. Know this isn’t part of you that is always seen; it is the part that is protecting you because all senses of esteem, boundaries, and who you once were have been stripped, so you feel as though your only choice – Fight, Flight, or Fawn (freeze). For most of us – the fight is the natural response. I urge you to breathe deeply and use your voice to be safe, powerful, and free.
Within reciprocity, intimacy, and love can begin to flourish, either again or anew. Reciprocity in relationships is about discussions and agreements on what relationships mean to you. What does love mean to you? Often, we engage in deep relationships with people who say they love us, and I wonder and am more curious about what that means. We are meaning making machines – what is normal to many may not be to all. As you begin to enter new relationships or are repairing the one you are in – have the hard conversations based on compassion, mutual respect, and well-being and what does love in relationships means, what reciprocity means, how we continue to love ourselves and others in the face of differences, disharmony, and bring it back to open dialogue and compassionate discussions leading to repair.
How to repair
Choose an agreed time, place, and agenda so no one feels like there will be surprises in the conversation. Be clear and compassionate in your communication, and try not to blame, judge, or make statements that cause harm to the relationship. This can be hard when triggered, so working on yourself is essential in this journey we call life. Personal responsibility and ongoing accountability are part of the repairing process when generating new outcomes in a relationship. Both parties must take personal accountability for actions and reactions and create an agreed-upon way to handle disagreements and upsets moving forward. Remember, not everyone will be perfect with this. In fact, this will take practice. The more you engage in this ritual with one another, the more you notice these times turn into special dates laced with intimate moments created by mutual respect and love.
USA, it is time to honor women and children. The best way to begin is equal rights.
Equal rights are the foundation of our democracy and we must continue to expand and embrace all of humanity as equal citizens sharing the earth, and her resources.
I have discovered that we can look at our lives as the journey of learning our gifts and how to share them. Artists, musicians, chefs, athletes, writers, teachers, scientists, etc., are beautiful examples of ways to share your innate talents. The more we focus our energies there – the better we feel. As we evolve, unfold, and transform, so do our skills and our ability to tune in and share them. The best way, I believe to begin that journey is to ask quality questions like: “what is my purpose? Who and how can I serve? What is my gift, and how can I share it with the world.” #Shajenjoyaziz #DiscoverTheGift
Trust your positive internal guidance. It is there for your growth and development and shows up in many ways, sometimes through sensations in your body, feelings, unexpected visits from nature, an intuitive voice, deep knowing, etc. Pay attention to how your intuition has guided you toward positive experiences and manifestations; this is how you know what direction to take.
Right now, you hold all that is needed to begin activating and living in alignment with your purpose, and it starts with listening deeply to your positive wisdom and engaging with your passions; this leads you on the journey of being involved in a life you love. I want this for you ~ You deserve it.
Pause and become present in your presence. Please take a deep breath, breathe in gratitude, and allow it to permeate every cell of your being. As you release your breath, breathe out any negative emotions or thoughts you have been holding that no longer serve you. With your next breath, breathe in light and love; as you exhale, breathe out anger, confusion, and darkness. As you are doing this, become aware of your breath, your body, your mind, and your emotions.
The chasm of pause before one takes back their power can feel deep, broad, and never-ending. Yet – the moment it happens, peace prevails, and that who you unquestionably are shines through your being. Honor yourself and others with compassionate communication. We are all a work in progress, and the more we practice, the more we evolve together in this arena.
How to take back your power from unhealthy situations
First and foremost ~>
BREATHE and get out of Amygdala Highjack.
1. Notice and be aware of how the experience affects your body?
Do you feel uneasy sensations in your gut, heart, or legs? If yes, your intuition – your “gut feeling” is speaking to you. Trust it. Look within and ask what it is telling you. Listen to the answers you receive and breathe. You listened deeply, you heard the information, and now the choice is yours.
2. Be willing to be uncomfortable in the choices that are good for you and are transforming your current situation into a more positive one. This is where you rediscover your power.
Follow through on what you know to be true for yourself to create peace. The willingness to do so will generate remarkable events for you and those around you.
3. Have clear and compassionate conversations with yourself and those you need to establish new and healthy relationships.
In your conversations, Begin with being a good listener and with personal accountability. Look to empathize, to understand more fully different perspectives and experiences. This validation for others will create more grace when it is your time to express yourself. If that time is not reciprocated for you – you have your answers.
Take responsibility for your past actions, mistakes, and choices. ***Let me be clear; you are not responsible for others’ unhealthy and hurtful choices toward you – at all – ever.*** However, forgiveness is a Power-tool, so Forgive yourself and others for past mistakes and create more space in your soul for peace, love, and deeper connections with yourself and others. You are with it, I promise.
Love,
Shajen ~~~~~
Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A. 323-889-9512
Award-Winning International Bestselling Author, Educator, Executive Producer, Speaker
Tap into what lights you up and inspires you. Remember to let go of the preconceived notions of others and follow your passions and gifts; it’s the way to expand your life.
As you learn to listen to and follow your positive inner wisdom more fully, your self-worth blossoms in new ways and clear boundaries become essential in your self-care rhythm.
Your journey is about fully understanding your worthiness, your inner source, and connecting that source with your inner knowing and new ways of thinking and being. To support this journey, I want to share how important it is to recondition and work on your mind and emotions to connect them in powerful and positive ways.
The Dalai Lama said, “The ultimate creator is the human mind,” and you must pay special attention to your internal thoughts, your energy, your heart, inner wisdom, and your voice. Allowing yourself to be guided by your source, the heart, instead of your rational mind is a critical way to access your inner core.
Michael Bernard Beckwith teaches us that our thoughts are mental energy and Terry Tillman acknowledges that energy follows thought, so with that knowledge, and as seekers of our Gifts we need to be aware of these lessons and allow our minds to relax and our hearts to lead the way.
Every choice we make creates an energetic vibration that flows into the Infinity Feedback Loop. This constant flow of energy is always in motion, never stagnant.
What we must do has become aware of our thoughts and thought processes because “there are no neutral thoughts” (Williamson”). Becoming deliberate and purposeful with our thoughts and actions creates awareness of our presence and the present.
Shajen Joy Aziz 