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Accountability. Healing. Hope.I cannot stay silent.I have not stayed silent.As a mother, licensed Special Educator, and therapist.My cries for help were ignored.The adults knew.My bones were broken and ignored.Nothing happened.I am forever changed.When powerful men harm children and women, and are not held accountable, the damage does not end with the abuse. It imprints on the nervous system. It alters brain development. It shifts immune functioning. It changes the trajectory of a life.This is not emotional exaggeration.It is neuroscience.It is longitudinal public health research.The Adverse Childhood Experiences research shows that early abuse is strongly associated with increased depression, addiction, autoimmune disease, heart disease, and shortened lifespan. Four or more adverse experiences significantly raise the risk of chronic illness in adulthood.CDC ACEs Research:https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.htmlNeuroscience confirms that prolonged childhood trauma heightens the amygdala’s threat response, disrupts hippocampal processing, and can impair prefrontal regulation. Chronic exposure to stress hormones like cortisol increases inflammation and keeps the body in survival mode.National Child Traumatic Stress Network:https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-traumaThis is why accountability is not optional.It is not political theater.It is nervous system justice.It is public health protection.When systems protect power instead of children, they retraumatize survivors. When men who commit horrific crimes are shielded by influence or wealth, the message to every survivor is clear: your pain does not matter.That must end.Accountability is not revenge.It is restoration of safety.It is protection for the next child.It is a cultural line in the sand.I am forever changed.And I am not powerless.Neither are We.Healing is real. The brain has neuroplasticity. The nervous system can regulate. Trauma can be integrated. Survivors can thrive. I see it in my clinical work. I live it in my own life.But healing does not replace justice.We can hold both:Compassion for survivors.Consequences for perpetrators.We can build trauma-informed systems in our schools, courts, and communities.We can demand transparency.We can believe survivors.We can stop protecting abusers because they are powerful, connected, or convenient.Collective ActionIf you feel called to act:• Contact your state and federal representatives and demand stronger enforcement of child protection laws and transparency in cases involving abuse.• Support survivor advocacy organizations such as RAINN or local sexual assault crisis centers.• Advocate for trauma-informed training in schools, law enforcement, and judicial systems.• Vote with children’s safety in mind.• Refuse to normalize silence when harm is exposed.Change happens when citizens refuse complicity.Intergenerational HealingWhen we hold perpetrators accountable, we are not only protecting today’s children. We are interrupting cycles of trauma that echo across generations.Unaddressed abuse does not disappear. It transmits through nervous systems, parenting patterns, attachment styles, and health outcomes. When we choose truth, accountability, and trauma-informed systems, we change the trajectory for children we may never meet.That is generational healing.I cannot stay silent.I have not stayed silent.And I will continue to stand for every woman and child whose body was violated and whose voice was dismissed.Accountability.Healing.Hope.All three are possible.Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A.Licensed Special Educator and Therapist

We can hold both:Compassion for survivors.Consequences for perpetrators.

Ode to Fonda Joy – My Mom

An Ode to My Mother, Fonda Joy 🤍You left me with a love for this Earth.A knowing of how to live simply and with grace.An understanding that everything is connected.You taught me about health and wellness.About food, how it can be medicine or poison.About tending the body the way one tends the land,with care, intention,Continue reading “Ode to Fonda Joy – My Mom”

The 8 Principles of Transformation

The 8 Principles of Transformation By Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A. 1. Receptivity & Flexibility Transformation begins with openness. The truth is, new possibilities are unfolding around us every day, yet we do not always notice them because we are not receptive. When you choose receptivity, you learn to listen to your soul, your innerContinue reading “The 8 Principles of Transformation”

The 8 Principles of Transformation

Introduction By Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A. Transformation is not something that happens to us, rather, it is something that awakens within us. It begins in a single moment, a pause, a breath… a realization that life is inviting us to evolve. When we choose to listen to that invitation, we step into a partnershipContinue reading “The 8 Principles of Transformation”

Today is a good day.

Grow – Please – USA

USA, it is time to honor women and children. The best way to begin is equal rights. Equal rights are the foundation of our democracy and we must continue to expand and embrace all of humanity as equal citizens sharing the earth, and her resources.

Pause for a moment …

Starting the process (Meditation) Pause and become present in your presence. Please take a deep breath, breathe in gratitude, and allow it to permeate every cell of your being. As you release your breath, breathe out any negative emotions or thoughts you have been holding that no longer serve you. With your next breath, breatheContinue reading “Pause for a moment …”

Breakdown Often Means Breakthrough.

Remember…Breakdown often means breakthrough.💫 Like the caterpillar evolving, it must surrender to hanging upside down in the darkness as it transmutes into the blossoming butterfly. Pause and be in your present moment. It is in the “being” that we live.Shajen Joy Aziz #Discoverthegift 🤍🤍

Positive Experiences Re-wire

Those who experienced extreme trauma at a young age have different ways of managing life. Emotional damage re-wires the brain; this means healing does too. If you know someone like this, honor their tender souls and engage in gentle, positive experiences which help to re-wire internal thoughts and feelings to a more accurate reflection ofContinue reading “Positive Experiences Re-wire”

Meaning Making Machines – A Process

A Little Awareness We are meaning-making machines. What are you making your life experiences mean? Let’s spend some time reconditioning thinking patterns to create avenues for new thinking, behaviors, and habits which support you. A question I get asked often is: How do I learn to become aware of myself?  This is a great question,Continue reading “Meaning Making Machines – A Process”