Accountability. Healing. Hope.I cannot stay silent.I have not stayed silent.As a mother, licensed Special Educator, and therapist.My cries for help were ignored.The adults knew.My bones were broken and ignored.Nothing happened.I am forever changed.When powerful men harm children and women, and are not held accountable, the damage does not end with the abuse. It imprints on the nervous system. It alters brain development. It shifts immune functioning. It changes the trajectory of a life.This is not emotional exaggeration.It is neuroscience.It is longitudinal public health research.The Adverse Childhood Experiences research shows that early abuse is strongly associated with increased depression, addiction, autoimmune disease, heart disease, and shortened lifespan. Four or more adverse experiences significantly raise the risk of chronic illness in adulthood.CDC ACEs Research:https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.htmlNeuroscience confirms that prolonged childhood trauma heightens the amygdala’s threat response, disrupts hippocampal processing, and can impair prefrontal regulation. Chronic exposure to stress hormones like cortisol increases inflammation and keeps the body in survival mode.National Child Traumatic Stress Network:https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-traumaThis is why accountability is not optional.It is not political theater.It is nervous system justice.It is public health protection.When systems protect power instead of children, they retraumatize survivors. When men who commit horrific crimes are shielded by influence or wealth, the message to every survivor is clear: your pain does not matter.That must end.Accountability is not revenge.It is restoration of safety.It is protection for the next child.It is a cultural line in the sand.I am forever changed.And I am not powerless.Neither are We.Healing is real. The brain has neuroplasticity. The nervous system can regulate. Trauma can be integrated. Survivors can thrive. I see it in my clinical work. I live it in my own life.But healing does not replace justice.We can hold both:Compassion for survivors.Consequences for perpetrators.We can build trauma-informed systems in our schools, courts, and communities.We can demand transparency.We can believe survivors.We can stop protecting abusers because they are powerful, connected, or convenient.Collective ActionIf you feel called to act:• Contact your state and federal representatives and demand stronger enforcement of child protection laws and transparency in cases involving abuse.• Support survivor advocacy organizations such as RAINN or local sexual assault crisis centers.• Advocate for trauma-informed training in schools, law enforcement, and judicial systems.• Vote with children’s safety in mind.• Refuse to normalize silence when harm is exposed.Change happens when citizens refuse complicity.Intergenerational HealingWhen we hold perpetrators accountable, we are not only protecting today’s children. We are interrupting cycles of trauma that echo across generations.Unaddressed abuse does not disappear. It transmits through nervous systems, parenting patterns, attachment styles, and health outcomes. When we choose truth, accountability, and trauma-informed systems, we change the trajectory for children we may never meet.That is generational healing.I cannot stay silent.I have not stayed silent.And I will continue to stand for every woman and child whose body was violated and whose voice was dismissed.Accountability.Healing.Hope.All three are possible.Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A.Licensed Special Educator and Therapist

We can hold both:
Compassion for survivors.
Consequences for perpetrators.

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Shajen(Shy-Anne) Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A. Shajen Joy Aziz, M.Ed., M.A., is an award-winning international best-selling author, filmmaker and educator. She mentors businesses and professionals, emerging platforms, life-coaches, and those seeking personal growth. Her programs include workshops, seminars and webinars, intimate retreats and a holistic Life-Coaching certification course based on her award-winning book and film Discover the Gift. Her book, Discover the Gift – It’s Why We’re Here, is published in 24 countries and 14 languages and her film, based on the book, is worldwide and in multiple lanuages–see Discover the Gift on Gaia TV. Shajen is proud to announce she is a contributing author in the upcoming books: Essential Wisdom-Timeless Roadmaps of Self-Discovery, Self-Actualization and Soul Purpose, as well as the fun and smart, Sexy, Fit & Fab Moms. For over 25 years, her focus continues to be on emotions, beliefs, and systems and their impact on an individuals’ ability to thrive personally, professionally, psychologically, and spiritually. She owes her thorough understanding of humans and how to improve systems to her twenty years of experience as a school administrator, school Counselor, and Special Educator. Her groundwork in the field of education and mental health has paved the way for her to become a leader within the transformational and peace-building communities. In a very short time, her global life-coaching certification coursework and programs have amassed a dedicated community of Ambassadors, Coaches, and Trainers from around the globe. Featured in many networks such as The Huffington Post, ABC, NBC, CNN, Spirit and Destiny Magazine, The Shift Network, Examiner.com, Catalyst, Spiritual Networks, Life Connection and Vision Magazine, amongst numerous others stateside and abroad. A founding member of the Southern California Association of Transformational Leaders (Assoc. of Transformational Leaders) and The Women’s Speakers Assoc., Shajen is an active trailblazer for women, children, and education. Shajen has been a guest faculty member of The Shift Network and has been featured alongside Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Desmond Tutu, Barbara Marx Hubbard, and Eckhart Tolle, to name a few. A leading expert in self-actualization and personal development, Shajen has had the pleasure of sharing the speaking stage with other influential New Thought Leaders and colleagues such as Jack Canfield, Michael Bernard Beckwith, Dr. Barbara De Angelis, Sir Ken Robinson, Dr. Sue Morter, Mary Morrissey, David Wolfe, and many others. Her recognitions include and are not limited to 2017 and 2014 Woman of Outstanding Leadership from the International Women’s Leadership Assoc., In 2012 Shajen received the Peace and Creativity Award presented by Congresswoman Karen Bass and the 2011 & 2012 Woman of the Year Award from the National Association of Professional Women. These recognitions are for her dedication and excellence in her field of education. Honored with the Global Humanitarian Award, presented by Dr. Barbara De Angelis and Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwith at the Agape International Spiritual Center, Shajen Joy Aziz is facilitating the healing of others one person, one family, one community at a time. Shajen@discoverthegift.com

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